WHEN WE GIVE OUR TIME FOR ANYONE....

[Queen Esther]

WHEN   WE   GIVE   OUR   TIME   FOR   ANYONE  with  LOVE....  then  its  coming  from  Jehovah's  LOVE ❤

[Queen Esther]

I  often  give  alot  time  for  others....   but  by  my  doings,  I  rare  look  on  my  clock !  Please  tell  me, my  Brothers  and  Sisters,  when  we  have  to  stop  helping.....   When  we  have  to  look  to  ourselve ?  Its  not  so  easy  I  think !  Tell  me  your  experiences  and  some  tips / advises  -  thank  you !  Agape ❤

[James Thomas Rook Jr.]

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Do not confuse “duty” with what other people expect of you; they are utterly different. Duty is a debt you owe yourself to fulfill obligations you have assumed voluntarily. Paying that debt can entail anything from years of patient work to instant willingness to die. Difficult it may be, but the reward is self-respect. But there is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a footpad than it is with the leech who wants “just a few minutes of your time, please--this won’t take long.” Time is your total capital, and the minutes of your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these parasites will use up 100 percent of your time--and squawk for more! So learn to say No--and to be rude about it when necessary. Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work, and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your life and leave none of it for you. (This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don’t do it because it is “expected” of you.)

Beware of altruism. It is based on self-deception, the root of all evil.

If tempted by something that feels “altruistic” examine your motives and root out that self-deception. Then, if you still want to do it, wallow in it!

You live and learn or you don’t live long.

(Aphorisms I use as a guide, from the Notebooks of Lazarus Long, by Robert A. Heinlein.)

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[Queen Esther]

Thank  you  my  Brother....   its  a  help  for  deep  thinking  on  and  off  again  for  me !  Not  so  easy,  but  feasible ;-)